Why Netflix is a Form of Self-Care

We often hear tales of how Netflix embodies the doom of our generation, along with various other digital distractions designed to detach us from reality and genuine human connection. Many might argue that there's truth to that statement. After all, how concerning is it that we can binge-watch an entire season in one sitting or devour a complete series in a week? The narrative is always the same: we’re alienating ourselves, becoming lazy, procrastinating, and losing passion for anything that doesn't involve that little app that captures our attention.

Yet, I find myself in stark disagreement.

Sure, nothing is inherently good in excess. Even the most wonderful things lose their charm when overindulged. Balance is crucial, and I wholeheartedly agree. However, I firmly believe that Netflix and its counterparts, like Amazon Prime or whatever your streaming vice may be, represent the antithesis of doom; they are, in fact, a controversial form of self-care.

Why do we gravitate towards TV shows over movies? Unless it's a Marvel blockbuster, do we even frequent theaters anymore? TV shows have captured our collective imagination. Here’s my theory: the world today is a peculiar place. Society is taxing, and the people around us often make us question our capacity for even the simplest human connection. Everywhere we look, there’s comparison, jealousy, and bitterness. We find ourselves in a generation where everyone wants the most with the least amount of effort. Everyone desires notoriety, influence, and importance, yet lacks the talent, drive, or authenticity to achieve those goals. This dynamic breeds frustration, insecurity, anger, and jealousy.

Everywhere we turn, life feels hard. Whatever we attempt, it seems to be a struggle. People complicate things. We’re engaged in a constant battle—a daily Winterfell, if you will—that leaves us exhausted. Chasing our dreams often feels like navigating a never-ending Hunger Games. We’re figuratively beaten down by others and their inability to communicate; it’s rare to find someone who can provide genuine comfort. Whether it's a crush, family, or friends, those who offer solace are truly fortunate.

You know exactly what I mean. We all live this reality daily.

Now, let’s circle back to Netflix. Why are we so fixated on TV shows? Why do we binge-watch entire seasons in a day? Because the characters we watch become our surrogate friends. They provide the comfort we lack in the real world. Movies often leave us unable to connect deeply with the characters beyond enjoying the plot for a brief 90 minutes. But TV shows? Those characters live with us, day in and day out, for years across countless seasons. They grow alongside us. They understand us; they don’t argue or talk back. Every day, we eagerly anticipate finishing our work and obligations, rushing home to fire up Netflix and reconnect with our friends on-screen. It’s akin to returning home to family or meeting cherished friends at the bar.

For me, that part of my day keeps me grounded. If I don’t spend a few hours immersed in something that offers a fresh perspective, helping me unwind and escape the daily grind, I would struggle to navigate this world.

This app is designed for self-care. It recommends shows, remembers where you left off, and patiently waits for you. It allows you to “hang out” with your on-screen friends every night. The only time it really lets us down is during those frustrating moments of buffering while our food is ready, and all we want is a bite, but the loading wheel seems merciless—an all-too-rare disappointment from Netflix.

During my time in New York, I discovered that you can download your favorite shows to watch underground on the subway (don’t laugh; I didn’t need this feature in Los Angeles), and it made me realize that Netflix might have figured out the essence of life itself.

So, no, I don’t view Netflix as doom. I work hard, often too hard, and I actively engage with the world, ensuring I don’t miss what I don’t want to overlook. But it offers me comfort, a means of escapism from the myriad difficulties and obstacles life throws my way. The ability to tune out for a few hours and immerse myself in these fictional narratives is what enables me to face this demanding world.

So, what’s your self-care choice in this chaotic landscape? Other than Netflix, of course!